I heard about Tisdale's death as I listened to a Web-stream broadcast of WBGO, a New Jersey public radio station that plays jazz. The station had former Yankees star Bernie Williams on live. Williams, who plays jazz guitar, was talking about his new album, Moving Forward, and mentioned that one of the players on the album was Tisdale and that he had just learned that the 44-year-old had died of cancer.
Tisdale and Williams played on the album together via overdub. They were never in the studio together and had not met. Williams, who is heading out on a musical tour to promote his album, said he had been looking forward to meeting the former power forward.
I met Tisdale back in 1995. It was a broiling June day in Arizona, and I was invited to check out his band, The Fifth Quarter, which was rehearsing in his home studio in northeast Phoenix.
When one of his band members complained that it was hot, Tisdale smiled and said that it wasn't just "hot" but that it was "ho" (pronounced "ha"). The player asked Tisdale what he meant, and Tisdale said that it was so hot that it took too much effort to pronounce the "t."
Tisdale, then 30, played five-string electric bass guitar and had been signed by Motown Records' smooth-jazz subsidiary, MoJazz. He was excited about the imminent release of his first album, Power Forward.
That was only one of the dreams that had come true for him in the previous year. After years of playing in "purgatory," as he called his 1989-1994 stint with then-perennial losers the Sacramento Kings, he had signed at well below his market value with the Phoenix Suns in September 1994.
The Suns, with Charles Barkley as power forward, had battled to the sixth game of the NBA finals to cap their 1992-1993 season, and had made it to second round of the playoffs in the 1993-1994 season. The team lost that year to the Houston Rockets in a toughly fought seven-game series, in which Barkley, suffering a groin injury, was not able to deliver his clutch heroics.
What the Suns got in Tisdale was someone to spell Barkley -- who contemplated retirement after the Rockets series -- during the 1994-1995 season, so that Barkley would be fresher when crunch time came in the postseason.
What Tisdale got was to hitch his wagon to a star. Although he knew Barkley would be the full-time power forward, he also knew that the team would be playoff-bound.
So he smiled his umbrella smile through the games and went to the playoffs for the first time in 1995.
Adding Tisdale was not a magic potion for the Suns. They suffered the same fate, losing to the Houston Rockets in a tough seven-game series, which came down to a 1-point loss in Game 7.
But for Tisdale that was not a disappointment.
He told me about his days with the Sacramento Kings: "I had so much time! I used to look at the end of the schedule and say, 'Oh, April 23? That's when we'll be finished.'"
With the Suns, he wasn't sure when the season would be over till it was over.
Tisdale, born June 9, 1964, in Fort Worth, Texas, grew up in Tulsa, Oklahoma, where he picked up the bass guitar and basketball.
As a junior at Booker T. Washington High School, he led his team, the Hornets, to a 1981 state championship. As an Oklahoma Sooner, his career was similarly full of achievement -- he was a three-time All-American and became the Sooners' career leader in scoring and rebounds.
Then, he played on the gold-winning U.S. basketball team in the 1984 Olympics and went on to play 12 years in the NBA. He retired in 1997 from the NBA, as a member of the Suns. Soon after, he became the first Sooner in any sport to have his number retired. Just this April, Tisdale was named to the National Collegiate Basketball Hall of Fame.
It was late, about 11 p.m., when Tisdale's band finished practicing that June evening in Phoenix. His wife Regina, cradling their 4-month-old daughter, Gabrielle, sat watching the practice. She confessed that his music schedule in the off-season was making it tougher for the family to see him than the intense NBA season schedule did, because when Tisdale was in town for home games he did not work on his music career, preferring to spend his off hours with the family.
They had three other kids, Danielle, then 11; Tiffany, then 7; and Wayman Jr., then 4.
As the practice wrapped up, there was some talk of a late-night session to tune some things up, but one player said he was bushed.
"You can't hang! You can't hang!" Tisdale taunted through his broad smile.
When he finally sat down to talk, Tisdale said, the band was "something to keep me going during the summer, instead of sitting around."
He sure wasn't sitting around. "Now, I've got a record deal, and I'm traveling just as much" as during the NBA season, he said.
Then, he paused.
"With four kids!"
Tisdale started playing music for his father's church when he was in fifth grade: "I just started picking it up. I never had a lesson. I just play by ear."
Why the bass, which he played more like a lead guitar than a traditional bass?
"I've always loved the bass. I thought the bass always carried the groove and the personality of the band. I didn't want to play the drums, I never wanted to play the guitar; I've always wanted to play bass," he said.
Tisdale wrote songs to get his own feelings out. "Instead of writing it out or writing a book about it, I was able to put it in music."
The inspirations came in spare moments, "like first thing in the morning when I wake up, I hear a tune, I go straight to my studio," he said. "When I'm in my music world, it takes me all the way away from things that are going around."
The music served him well.
After Power Forward, he released seven more albums. Four of them landed in the Top 10 of Billboard's Contemporary Jazz chart, and his 2001 album, Face to Face, went to Number 1.
His last album, Rebound, was released last year, and beyond the obvious allusion to his role as a basketball forward, it referred to his hope that he would rebound from the cancer that was discovered in 2007. (It was in his leg, which was amputated below the knee during his treatment.)
The Tulsa World reports that Tisdale started a national tour last month, after a chemotherapy treatment.
The paper also reports that he told a Tulsa crowd gathered to confer the "Legacy Award" on him in April: "In my mind, I've already beaten it."
Even though some would say he lost his battle, I think he really won because it sounds as though he never lost his umbrella smile.
We all die, but how many go out smiling?